Parent to Parent
UI parents share their advice for move-in day and the big goodbye
Moving a child to college is a big transition for everyone. To help ease what’s sure to a busy and emotional day, we asked a few parents who experienced move-in last fall to offer words of wisdom to the parents of this year’s incoming class. Here is what they had to say:
Give yourself plenty of time. We could have squeezed it all in one very full day, but instead we chose to arrive a day early and spent a relaxing evening together with no deadlines. We also chose to leave the siblings at home, so we could focus solely on Ben, our oldest.
We made our parting words very positive and made every attempt to convey to Ben, once again, that we were excited for him and for all the fun and new experiences he was about to begin. We did not dwell on the obvious. He already knew how much would were going to miss him. The last thing you want is to leave your student feeling bad about how sad his or her parents are.
That final goodbye is very hard, especially with a first child. Ben did not turn back and watch us drive away. I guess that was symbolic of his first year at Iowa—he never did look back. He just kept moving forward in the most positive way, starting a new life as a Hawkeye and loving his new experience.
Bev and Bill Koehler, Leawood, Kan.
Move-in always takes longer than you think it will, and once you get started you just want to power through and get it done so that everyone can relax before the parents head back home. It’s a great day if you bring the right attitude.
Here are some things that saved us:
Denise Holder, La Grange, Ill.
We were very impressed with all of the Iowa students and staff that planned and participated in move-in day last summer! They did a fantastic job and it went very, very well. Some advice for the day:
Karen Duvall, Crystal Lake, Ill.
The Office of Admissions offers advice for parents of first-year students at admissions.uiowa.edu/parents-family/encouraging-student-success.